Since children cannot read and write in the first 7 years of their lives, they nurture their language development only with the words they hear. In this phase, they are very sensitive to every sound around them. Especially 2-3 year old children try to absorb and understand these sounds by imitating and repeating every sound they hear. Some children even look like parrots who repeat what you say.
It is normal for your children to hear and use various words of profanity around this period. One reason is that these words are different from the words heard every day, so it's more appealing to children to use them. Another reason is that children do not know exactly what these words mean, so they can use them whenever they can. To prevent such a situation from becoming a habit, you must first keep your child away from these words and then tell your child how bad these words mean. Here are a few tips to help you…
What can you do?
• As we always say, you, as parents, are the most important role models in front of your children. Everything you do or say will be reflected in your child's behavior, remember! Therefore, be careful not to swear with your child!
• If your child goes to school, try to find a common solution by sharing this with the teacher. The teacher's understanding of your sensitivity to this issue helps to keep track of your child's conversations in the school environment and ensure a bilateral (school-family environment) harmony.
• Pay attention to the programs your child watches on television, unfortunately many programs today use these types of words frequently, which makes it easier for children to learn them.
• Try to find out if there are children cursing in your child's group of friends, if you detect such a child, try to talk to the drum family. If you do not have a chance to talk to the child's family, tell your child that he or she is very wrong, and tell your child that it is rude. (If your child's friend is in school, you can ask the teacher for help). Keeping your child away from that friend may not be a definite solution, remember!
• Especially boys are more likely to curse and interpret this as a demonstration of power. But the most important reason for this situation is the role models your child sees around. For example, you watch a match with your child in a restaurant, there are people around you do not know and swear during the match. Such an environment is not quite right for your child, although it is possible to reverse the situation. You can show him what behavior you approve by your actions, for example, not swearing while other people are cursing, will help your child to believe that it is wrong.
• You can benefit from adult books written by experts on this subject. This will give you an idea of how you can help your child.
• You can read books that tell your child that abuse is bad behavior.
• If your child has a habit of swearing that you cannot prevent, you should seek advice from a specialist.