The role of play in child development is unfortunately missed by parents. Psychologist Sinem Olcay from Istanbul Parenting Class “The game is very useful for children as it gives them the opportunity to teach them who they are, what they can do, and how to interact with the world around them,” he says.
Parents generally believe that play is an instinctive thing for children, so that without the help of an adult, the child can play by himself. It is true that very young children initiate spontaneous games on their own, but we should know that a child's instinct to create a game is slowly disappearing if the parent does not contribute to stimulating the child's process of creating a game. Therefore, it is very important that parents play with their children.
- With the game you can help your child solve daily problems, test thoughts, and explore his imagination.
- Play with adults encourages the child to develop a vocabulary that will help them express their thoughts, feelings and needs.
- The game improves children's social skills by teaching them to wait, share and care for the feelings of others.
- When you play, you encourage your child to feel self-confidence and competence.
- The game is very useful to build warm relationships and strong ties with your child.
- Research shows that children who play role-playing and imagination-based games when they are little are more creative and exhibit less behavioral problems in the future.
What should parents pay attention to when playing with their children?
1. Follow your child's leadership
The first step in playing games with your child is to follow your child's leadership, ideas and imagination instead of imposing your own idea. Do not try to organize activities by giving commands and instructions. Do not try to teach your child anything. Instead, imitate your child's movements and do what he or she tells you. Soon you will see that when you sit back and give him the opportunity to experience his own imagination, your child will become more interested in the game and become more creative. This approach will also support your child's ability to play and think on their own.
2. Match the speed of the game to your child
Young children tend to play the same activity over and over again. Because children need to repeat the same thing many times in order to be able to trust their own skills. If they are pushed to try something new when they are not ready yet, they may feel inadequate or may be disappointed and give up playing with the parent. Therefore, make sure to adjust the speed of the game to the pace of your child. Give him plenty of time to use his imagination. Just don't force him to get bored. Adjusting the pace of the game to your child will extend your child's attention span and encourage it to focus on a single activity for a certain period of time.
3. Be sensitive to your child's tips
Follow the tips it gives you when playing with your child. If you are not interested in making a puzzle or any other game, go on an activity your child wants to do. You can periodically offer him new activities and respond in a supportive way when he shows interest. Don't worry if the card game you've played turns into something else, such as selling movie tickets, throwing games.
4. Do not engage in power struggle
Many parents build a competitive relationship with their children without even realizing it. While playing, they need to teach their children to play or lose the game according to the rules, or they do their part in the game so well that they do not allow the child to feel enough. The main objective of the game is to contribute to the child's sense of self-sufficiency and independence and to give the child the opportunity to take control and power. Children have little chance of interacting with adults. The game is the only time it is safe to give control to the child and to follow his or her own rules.
5. Praise and encourage your child's ideas and creativity
Do not judge, correct or contradict your child while playing. What matters is not what the product is, but your child's creativity and testing. Try to find ways to praise your child's ideas, thoughts, and behaviors. You can praise many skills such as focus, determination, effort to solve the problem, creativity, expressing feelings, cooperating, motivation and self-confidence. While learning how to praise your child, you can try praising something your child does every 2 or 3 minutes as an exercise.
To be continued.
Development Specialist Psychologist Sinem Olcay İstanbul Parenting Class Zeytinoğlu Cad. View Arzu's Full Profile No: 2 Diare: 27 Etiler / Istanbul T&F: 212 351 90 01 I www.istanbulparentingclass.co
Development Specialist Psychologist Sinem Olcay
İstanbul Parenting Class
Zeytinoğlu Cad. View Arzu's Full Profile
No: 2 Diare: 27
Etiler / Istanbul
T&F: 212 351 90 01